Any advice to get out of a physically abusive relationship?

I'm 17 years old. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. I'm constantly getting put down verbally and beaten for any little thing. Just the other day i was forced to have sex with him. Ive tried to leave, but when i do i get millions of phone calls, texts, and home visits. i also get threatened with my biggest secrets he knows to be spilled. I'm so sick of this and i know i deserve better. does anybody have any advice? please?Any advice to get out of a physically abusive relationship?
My heart aches for you. Please reach out to someone who can help, teacher, pastor, friend, relative, parent, cop. Will keeping your secrets be that important when he's beaten you to death. At 17, you can't have that many ';juicy'; secrets, besides if you leave him and live to 25 you will realize how silly it was anyway. Good luck and God bless.Any advice to get out of a physically abusive relationship?
If one of your friends was dating a guy who ';kissed and told';, would you listen or just think the guy is a perv? When a creep starts telling stories, who believes him and who wants to keep him as a friend after hearing such creepy stories?





The best thing is to talk. Tell your Mom, your Aunts, Counselors at school, Tell adults, not kids your own age. Women in their 30's and 40's have inside information how to handle this type situation.





The question is how will you react when he is out of your life. Will you miss the attention and start remembering the good times? Will second guess or are you fully prepared to move on with your life? Adult women can help you with these answers.





Also, let the adult women in your life read those texts and listen to the messages that he leaves on your phone. Do not let him have secrets starting right now. It's not about running away or hiding. It's about revealing secrets and shining light into a very dark situation.






Do whatever it takes to get away from this guy. Tell your parents, the cops, anybody that can help you get away from him. The longer you stay with him the worse he will get. As for your secrets, you will have to deal with them if decides to expose them. I think its better having a secret expose then getting verbally and physically beaten. What are you waiting for, for him to beat you bad enough where he puts you in the hospital or kill you. You're 17, there are a lot of nice you men out there you can be dating. Oh by the way, forced to have sex (boyfriend or not) is rape darling.
LEAVE NOW!! If you can go back home to your parents. Or a relative or a friend. But you must leave. He will not change. You must ignore his texts or phone calls. Change your number if you can. If you can seek legal advice and put a restraining order on him so that he cannot come within so many feet of you.


Please please leave. Regardless of what secrets he may tell about you. What's better being happy and safe or living in total fear for the rest of the relationship.


End it now. Please leave. Do it as soon as you can.


I left in my nightie with my daughter in hers. We ran for our lives. It was scary and I was terrified but knew I had to do it for my child. The relief was unbelievable and I knew I no longer had to put up with any more abuse.


Good Luck
Do you live at home? If so, tell your parents NOW. Explain what he is doing. Also, tell them your secret. Honey, parents are NOT the enemy. They love you and will do anything for you. No matter what your secret, your parents will help you.





If your parents know about the secret, and you are worried about other people finding out...well, just say he is lying because you broke it off with him.





Your parents need to know what is going on...your life could be in danger.





If you were forced to have sex with him, this is called rape. You need to call a domestic violence hotline to discuss what you can do.





Change your cell number, don't go to the same places he knows you go to, change routines, tell your school what he is doing and have him kept out of the school. If he goes to your school they can make him stay away from you. Make sure you have safe rides home and to school. get a restraining order. Have your parents call his parents. Tell all your friends what he has done.
Girl you need to get far away as possible tell some one i just got out of a relatioship like that you dont need that call the cops put a restraning order on him no one deserves that and you are only 17?? you have the rest of you life dont waste your time with him now its just him verbally abusing you and smacking you around what next he could kill you please get away from him and if he tells your secrets owell at least you will still be alive change your number tell who ever you live with not to answer the door when he comes to your house just do not go any further with this guy you really need to think about this..he does not love you cause if he did he would not put his hands on you i learned the hard way you dont need to you are way to young to go through this.
Tell your parents first of all, change your phone number and email address and lastly get the police involved if this guy doesn't stop harassing you. You also were forced to have sex with him which is rape and you could have him charged with rape. Seriously this guy is not going to go away unless you take drastic steps and you need your parents involvement in this.
he raped you! tell your parents and the local authorities and whatever secrets he's holding over your head, face them. it is what it is and whatever you did can't be changed and you can't hide from it, so just let that go and don't let it phase you and beat him to the punchline tell yourself, don't give him the gratification and he'll feel stupid. you need to deparate yourself from hima nd get a restraining order. he'll leave you alone then or become some guy name tiny's B**TCH!!
he thinks he can do whatever he can bcos u2 share some secrets,,


i dnt knw what it is n how huge it is... bt as long as you share the secrets w him , he goes after you.


dnt let him control you,.. easy to say bt be strong, dnt 'share' anything w him.


like you said, you deserve better.


go someone you can trust,


teacher, police, some social service, someone not your friends.


RUN now please
LEAVE immediately. Look for battered women's groups near where you live and go to one IMMEDIATELY. You are right--you do deserve better! Good luck to you!
LEAVE rite now!


while you can before you have kids with this jerk!


It will only get worse,


he probably learned this from his ';dear ole dad';!
forced wth that is horrible tell someone and leave tell your mom/counselor police
Sweetie ... why are you complaining this is your choice , live it or leave it ...