Monday, August 23, 2010

Can I get some advice for meditating?

Whenever I try to meditate, I fall asleep. Either that or I just get frustrated and give up. I've also tried the relaxing position in Yoga where i guess you lay down and relax every muscle starting with your face and working down to your toes. That has also put me to sleep. Can anyone help? I really need to learn, because I think negatively too much, and I need to learn not to. Please Help?Can I get some advice for meditating?
What is it you want to accomplish? There are many forms of meditation.





Try doing your meditation in a sitting position, either in a chair with both feet on the floor and your palms turned face up in your lap, or cross legged on the floor, with your palms face up on your knees.





Breath in to the count of 7, hold 1 sec, breath out for the count of 7. Do this until you start to feel relaxed and let go of all your worries. Picture negative energy going out of your body with each breath out, and positive white light going into your body with each breath in.





Now for what you want to accomplish with your meditation?





If you want to change your life, you change your subconscious. Meditate at the end of the day. Go thru your day and the events that happened. Is there anything you are not happy with? Erase the event in your mind, do this several times, then re-create the event the way you WISHED it would have happened. See yourself reacting, saying, doing, what you wish you had done. By doing a daily review, you will program your mind to act differently if the situation ever comes up again. You should do this nightly for 30 days to start, and you will begin to feel more confident and positive.





Good luck!Can I get some advice for meditating?
Meditation is simply learning to live in the moment, when nothing distracts you and when you are not tied to the past or anxious about the future. In meditation you become peacefully aware of your real self. The more you use it, the more aware you become. When you learn to live life for each moment, to enjoy and appreciate life to the fullest at that moment, you suddenly become impervious to the myraid of doubts and fears that you've lived with all your life.





While there are many folks that seem to believe their particular mantra has ';magical power';, it really is the mindfulness that matters. The mantra is just one of the vehicles you can use to get there.





I developed a simple nonsectarian practice, but my background is in Buddhism - specifically Jodo Shinshu (aka Shin) Buddhism, Nichiren Buddhism, and the nonsectarian teachings of the Bright Dawn Institute (aka Kubose Dharma Legacy).





Here is the simple, yet potent, meditation technique that I use with some recommended resources as well. Specific posture does not matter. If you are uncomfortable sitting on the floor, you can sit on a chair with feet flat on the floor.





Since I have medical issues, I do a simple form of secular mindfulness meditation to relieve stress and anxiety. This helps to reduce high blood pressure and the frequency of headaches. It is a practice recommended by my primary licensed physician and is not encumbered by any superstitious nonsense.





I have actually studied a wide variety of religions and paths. Being more musically inclined, I was initially attracted to the practices of Jodo Shinshu (aka Shin Buddhism) and Nichiren Buddhism - with the combination of chanting a rhythmic phrase (Nembutsu or Odaimoku) and/or sutra recitation to a visual object (a scroll of Amida or a Gohonzon). This is a more active form of meditation as compared to the silent form (see below for that). So I decided to create a nonsectarian alternative in that vein. One practice that I find helpful in the vein of the Way of Oneness (the realization of interdependence) is to chant “Be One, Be Peace” in a position of gassho (palms together in front of chest with fingers pointing upward - a traditional gesture of respect) to an object such as a Dharma Wheel or a drawing of enso (a circle) as used in Zen. Five minutes of this every morning before work does wonders for my blood pressure and stress level.





You are more than welcome to use the chant if you think you may find it possibly useful.





I use two forms: “Be One. Be Peace.” for those who prefer a four syllable “mantra” like “Namandabu.” Or “Be One. Be Love. Be Peace.” for those who prefer the pace of a six syllable “mantra” like “Nam(u) Myo-ho Ren-Ge Kyo” or “Na-Mu A-Mi-da Butsu.” People who like (or are drawn) to chant are attracted to the rhythm.





For me, the purpose of any practice is to encourage self-reflection, internalizing this awareness , and wonder/gratitude/awareness of the interdependent forces of the Universe (Dharmakaya - in Shin this is symbolized as Amida Buddha which allows practitioners to perceive these forces as “compassionate” and “caring” thus allowing us to relate to them easier, or as the Gohonzon in Nichiren Buddhism which is a calligraphic representation of the “Ceremony in the Air” from the Lotus Sutra which is also a representation of the interdependent forces of the Universe).





There are a couple of simple techniques for silent meditation as well. You do not have to sit on the floor. You can sit with erect back on a chair. Many people say try for 15 minutes twice a day. I say start with a simpler goal - 5 minutes twice per day. The benefits include stress management and relaxation benefits which help the body, increased mindfulness and focus, and increased energy. The mindfulness can be a benefit to your spiritual life, but meditation also has ';non-spiritual'; benefits. Here are two easy techniques:





Breathing meditation - 1) Check posture. 2) Close your eyes and relax. 3) Focus on your breath entering and leaving your body. 4) Count breaths mentally one to four. Repeat. 5) Don't fight a wandering mind, but calmly direct it back to task. 6) Sit for a minute afterwards.





';Mantra'; technique (choose a personal ';calm'; word or phrase that you will repeat in your meditation - it can be from your religion or something as simple as ';one'; or ';calm'; – I use the nonsectarian “Be One. Be Peace” or “Be One. Be Love. Be Peace.”) - 1) and 2) as above in the Breathing meditation. 3) Listen to your breathing and let it relax you with each breath. 4) Once you are relaxed, mentally ';hear'; your ';calm'; word or phrase in your mind. Let it repeat in your mind. 5) Don't fight a wandering mind, but calmly direct it back to task. 6) Sit for a minute afterwards.





That is all there is to these very simple but beneficial meditation techniques. Many people think that something ';mystical'; should happen during meditation. Most often ';nothing'; happens and ';nothing'; should be expected.





Oh yes, and it didn't cost me anything to learn nor were there any ';initiations'; involved.





Some good resources on ';secular'; meditation are ';The Calm Technique'; by Paul Wilson as well as ';The Relaxation Response'; by Herbert Benson. If you need more formal ';assistance'; or ';training'; then I would look into Natural Stress Relief which was founded by former Transcendental Meditation instructors upset at the rising cost and ongoing superstition associated with TM. They charge $47 for their training compared with the $2,500 that TM would charge you.





http://www.naturalstressreliefusa.org/





Also look at these websites on Buddhism on the nonsectarian Bright Dawn teachings which have a heritage of Shin and Zen Buddhism:





http://www.brightdawn.org/





http://www.heartlandsangha.org
You are wise to keep looking for new ideas that work. Meditation has traditional leaders and what they know is never written in the books. You must have a question to meditate about. It must have an answer of yes or no . Then you will have to develop a method of discerning the yes or no from your ancestors. They are there to help you . Only your ancestors care about you. Once you have mastered this type of meditaion I promise you a new life.
when you meditate, focus on one word and repeat it in your mind. like ';love';, ';joy';, ';peace'; etc... if thoughts come in, just return to that word.
I have fallen asleep too. The best trick for me is to have my eyes half open.
Check out fhu.com. They have a meditation you can download for free that does not involve a ';mantra'; and it's the only valid one.
Look into Transcendental Meditation. It's my understanding that you MUST get with a guru to get your own personal mantra assigned to you. Not just any will do. Don't ask me why that is, or if it's even true. All I know is, it works!
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